Jay Block, MyFoxJobShop - Properly managing what you focus on helps alleviate negatives emotions that impede your chances of landing a job in troubled times like fear, doubt, anger, and despair. Human beings are strange creatures when it comes to what they focus on. Isn't it true that 10 great things can happen to you today along with just one bad thing, and in most cases, you'll go home and burden your family and yourself with that one bad thing; while never even acknowledging the 10 good things? I know I've done that. So why is it that most people tend not to focus on the positive and fully engage themselves on the negative? The answer's simple. That's the way they were conditioned.
What's most exciting about this technique is that you can easily re-condition yourself to focus (or re-focus) on those things that will help you reduce stress, overcome fear and control your temper. You can live a high-quality life even if you are out of a job and struggling to pay the bills simply by paying attention to what you're paying attention to. By doing this, you can then refocus your thoughts on more positive aspects of your life to help you through the tough times. In other words, you can change your focus!
Focus is Power
If you watch television and find that the constant bad news gets you down, you can continue focusing on the bad news and become more distraught or, you can shift your focus and change the station to a comedy channel. You can go from a state of anguish to uncontrollable laughter – instantly!
The key to focus management is to first be aware of all the gifts you have currently in your life; all those things you have to be grateful for. When you lose a job, don't win an interview or face rejection after rejection during the job transition campaign, you have the power to focus on other things that are going well in your life; things you have to be thankful for. When life isn't going the way you'd like and your emotions start to come unglued, you have the ability to refocus on the positive aspects of your life to offset those negative emotions. Are you focusing on the 10% unemployment rate or the 90% employment rate? Wouldn't you give anything for a 90% chance of winning the lottery? Most countries of the world would give anything for a 90% employment rate. You see, when you refocus on the things that you are grateful for, the result will be happiness, hope and peace of mind. With these new inspiring emotions, you'll set the stage to land the job you want in any kind of economy.
So, here's a question for you. Who do you love most in the world? The next time you get into an emotional quagmire where you're focusing on something that upsets you, know that you have the power to instantly refocus your attention away from that negative emotion and onto the people you love. What do you have to be grateful for? The next time you begin a typical temper tantrum, know that you have the power to instantly refocus your attention away from whatever set you off onto all that you have to be grateful for. It's that easy, just like switching from one television station to another!
In a recent edition of, The Oprah Magazine, the Cover Headline read: How to Calm Down, Cheer Up; Oprah's Guide to Soothing Your Mind. Oprah suggests that during difficult times " Distract yourself. Put on music and dance; scrub the bathtub spotless, whatever engrosses you." In other words, what Oprah is saying is: shift your focus!
The essence of this technique is that you become acutely aware of what you're focusing on at all times. When you sense you're going into overwhelm or a fear-based emotional state, simply change your focus. The following is a short list of things you can focus on:
The love of your family, Music, What you see, Future dreams, What you smell, Happy memories
What you feel, A good movie, What you hear, A painting in your home, What you taste, Hobbies and interests , Poetry, Volunteer work, Your pet, Your good health, Family photo albums, A good book, Friendships, You live in the land of opportunity
Jay Block is an industry pioneer and one of the nation's leading career and empowerment authorities. He is the author of 15 career and motivational books, 10 of which are published by McGraw-Hill. Jay is a highly respected trainer and keynote presenter and is best known for combining world-class motivational techniques with cutting edge job transition tools and strategies. He has created four international certification programs (résumé, interviewing, career coaching, and motivation & empowerment) and travels the country sharing his ideas and concepts with job seekers and professional career / job trainers. He lives and works in South Florida with his wife Ellen.
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