The father of a 3-year old girl used the internet to shame his daughter after she had an ‘accident' in the shower.
He made her wear a sign that read "I pooped in the shower and daddy had to clean it up…I hereby sign this as permission to use in my yearbook senior year."
The father then took a picture of the girl wearing the sign and posted it on a website called ‘Reddit.'
Robin Sax is our legal analyst – and give her thoughts on this story. Here is her commentary:
Shaming seems to be the newest form of discipline. To me shaming, like this dad, did here is not discipline in any shape or form. In fact, what it really looks like is cyber bullying.
It doesn't matter who you are or where you come from, how successful you are, or how much money you make—parenting problems can be traced to what kind of basic foundation we set for our children's lives. The only way for children to learn that actions, behavior, options, decisions, and choices ultimately lead to consequences is by creating a system of actions-equals-consequences, otherwise known as "discipline." Discipline starts with the behavior the parent models. Simply put, kids do what parents do and say what parents say. So, if you act like a bully, expect your kid to do the same.
So, lets look at dad of the year here. He modeled humiliation via widespread posting online….sound like an FOX 11 investigative report on cyberbullying? Well, to me it is. Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines Cyberbulling as, "the electronic posting of mean-spirited messages about a person." I am sure that dad thought that he was doing a good parental thing as I am sure he wasn't posting on reddit to call out what a lousy parent he was.
While today's post is not intended to answer the ultimate question of how to discipline (maybe I'll dig into that later) what I can give you is the first step. Discipline begins with modeling good behavior. If you are not disciplined yourself, DO NOT expect disciplined kids. If you hope your kid does not humiliate others, you want them to be careful of what they say online, and hope they make good judgment calls then DO NOT POST THIS PICTURE OF YOUR THREE YEAR OLD ON REDDIT AFTER A POTTY ACCIDENT.