Nothing can compare to the destruction and devastation of a disaster. When a monster storm like Hurricane Sandy strikes, even preparation and precautionary measures seem futile. We can spend hours, days and even months hypothesizing the various scenarios of what it would be like, and speculating the countless circumstances of the aftermath and how it will feel, but when calamity ensues and we are in the moment, it is always different and oftentimes much worse than we anticipated.
The same can be said for what happens when the unexpected occurs and we are faced with the reality of weathering our own personal storms. The crashing waves of water seizing miles of surface can somehow feel less crushing than the raw emotions of sadness, bitterness or frustration we feel when the rug has been pulled out from underneath us. How to act gracefully and graciously when our worst fears are realized is an extremely daunting task, even for someone who is trained to do so.
Straddling both camps as a mother and professional expert, I aim to set the highest standard of a good example, but I will not lie and say it is easy. On the contrary, it takes the effort of a Mack truck to get through a particularly challenging moment with aplomb. Some people are simply better at this than others. Whether it comes naturally or is something that has to be learned, there are certainly a few useful etiquette guidelines we can apply to help us through.