We teach our children to share their feeling with us, let us know if someone bothers them at school, and pass down the message from our own parents of, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."
In the latest social media rage, high school and college students are creating school "Confessions" pages on Facebook. These anonymous pages allow your children to post comments about their anger towards a teacher, their sexual fantasies, the darkest secrets, or just who they might have a secret schoolgirl or schoolboy crush on.
Facebook requires students who set up these pages to do so under their real name, but they can hide their name as a page administrator. To keep the posts anonymous, many Facebook Confessions pages are using SurveyMonkey or Google forms to allow the students to submit their gripe or conquest of the day.
Hundreds of these "unofficial" pages from all over the country are popping up on Facebook, with new schools being added every day.
In Los Angeles, the UCLA Confessions Page called UCLA Confessions, UCLA Confessions, was created on February 2, 2013 and has almost 700 "Likes."
Those who comment on the posts or click the "Like" button are engaging online publicly.
Students at UCLA have posted entries including:
"I always thought myself as a smart person. But sometimes I feel that I'm pretty dumb or that I have some sort of special mental disability and that everyone else is humoring me."
"I feel guilty of making my parents spend so much money on my college education esp when others around are getting financial aid or scholarships. I'm not an American citizen so I don't qualify for any of that or loans. What to do?"
"I hate my roommates. one of them smells like bathroom and sweaty armpits together, and he always put layers and layers of cologne over his bad BO. and the other one snores and farts during his sleep, and burps non-stop for fun. and they party all the time and make out with every girls they can get their hands on. they are ignorant, selfish, and most of all, disrespect me. it doesn't really matter, but its really tiring to live with them and i want to do a room swap next quarter, and i hope i can one."
"So I met this super hot guy named Vicente a while back, but we don't have class together or live in the same building, so nothing happened. Every time I see him, I awkwardly look away or pretend not to see him because I'm so shy but I always see you. Anyways I just wanted to let Vicente know that he's really hot."
Meanwhile, across town at USC, the entries on their Facebook confessions page created on February 21, 2013 called Trojan Confessions are racier.
This site encourages students to submit anonymously through
.Let it out! Tell us about something that you did, happened to you, or witnessed while a student at USC. Make sure to not give out any names or sensitive information that would jeopardize any person or department - we want it to be a safe place."
"To the ALPHA PHI that works in Leavy, you can ride my face anytime ;)"
One of the most active UC Confessions page is is Santa Cruz Confessions created on December 4, 2012. With almost 5000 "Likes"
Apparently Facebook is paying attention to this site, as their recent entry states:
"Administrator's note: Facebook deleted another post from this page and gave me a week-long block, so no more confessions will be posted until after finals."
Some students post about their heartbreaks:
"Getting your confidence back after being cheated on is an incredibly difficult thing to do. Self-esteem is still low after four months. Any tips?"
Others boast about their sexual conquests.
As parents, are you monitoring your children's activity on Facebook? Do you know if your school has a Confessions page?
If you aren't sure, ask your children and conduct your own search on Facebook with the name of their school and type in the word "Confessions." Remind your children that posting anything online, even if they think it's being done anonymously, can be shared or commented on. If someone recognizes your children, it could jeopardize their academic career.