We've all been there. Anyone who is a newer parent, in particular, has high hopes of creating the "perfect" balance between family life, work, household management, school and extra-curricular activities. And, with all of the above priorities tugging at a limited 24-hour time window, personal well-being and time for couple-hood often slide, woefully, to the bottom of the "delightful chaos"! With the busy schedules that so many of us lead, the clear aim is to get "there" all in one piece. The problem is, as they say, "there is no there … there." The "there," of course, being the state of perfect parenthood. All moms eventually learn that this Holy Grail is, alas, just a myth. We all try our best to juggle multiple balls and responsibilities, offer the most rewarding and stimulating experiences to groom and nurture little minds and hearts, and keep a healthy routine in place. But the reality for many is that we end up overly-busy … and often overwhelmed, especially when we try to take on too much. And, nowhere is this more applicable than for women who also work – in or out of the home.
As an entrepreneur and mother of multiples, I've learned the hard way that there are only so many hours in the day – and in the end it always comes down to priorities. In our home, our kids' well-being is always our top focus, as it is for so many parents with young children. Still in their early developmental years and just starting grade school, their needs by choice and necessity simply come first for us. But as we also endeavor to run a family business, there is little time in the end for the personal well-being that all parents – both men and women – need to stay balanced, happy and healthy. How can moms in particular make sense of the roller coaster and enjoy the ride?
Here are a few tips from the trenches and from life lessons well-learned:
Lastly, breathe! Remember that your little ones' young childhood will be a fleeting moment in our and their lives. It is a joyful and wild roller coaster that sets us all on auto-pilot merely to keep up with the excitement! Relish in the knowledge that these most precious of days go by in the blink of an eye – and be in this moment. The gift of time and love is the greatest achievement we can ever pass along. To them, it is perfection … delivered with a huge bow.