I have been watching the Jodi Arias case with great disgust.
In my opinion this has brought the issue of creditability of abused women back decades.
To have a domestic violence expert such as Alyce LaViolette, whom I have known for many years and respect, sit on the stand and defend a woman who is clearly the abusive partner in this case, has been a disservice to all true battered women.
I interact with both female and male victims of domestic violence on a regular basis. In addition to counseling for men and women, I lead a support group for women and have previously done the same for men. Men can be victims of domestic violence too, it is under-reported due to shame and the perception of gender roles, for example: "I can't be a victim of domestic violence, I'm a man!"
Jodi Arias fits criteria as the abuser in this relationship. It's all about power and control. Many of my male and female clients report things such as their ex- partner showing up to their home unannounced, texting to engage in sex, texting things such as "I love you," "No one will love you as much as I do," and "I need to see you right now." This is much the same as what was reported about Jodi Arias, she had the power over Travis in that relationship.
When Jodi Arias was told by Travis he wanted to break up, and then he made plans to go on a Mexican vacation with another woman, Jodi was simply not going to have it. Travis was not allowed to move on. As soon as he did, the violence escalated to murder. She was playing the card of "If I can't have you then no one can..."
The prosecution had their closing arguments today and the defense will have their closing arguments tomorrow, it will then be in the hands of the jury to decide Jodi's fate.
I want to emphasize, that there are many women out there who are truly victims of abuse, and I don't want this case to minimize that. But I can say this case reminds us that men can also be abused by a female partner, and that this abuse should not be minimized, simply because the usual gender roles are reversed, in fact the DV field should take note.