Ok, I'm still mulling over my interview with the author of a new book on losing weight. It's called Fat Loser- Mental Toughness Training for Dieters. Yes, the double entendre "Fat Loser" is intended. Part of Steve Siebold's thesis is, you're a loser if you remain fat. It's your call. You just need to be mentally tougher.
From where does Siebold draw his expertise? Med School? Psychology Post-Doc? No, he is a former pro tennis player who launched a successful career in motivational speaking, consulting and coaching the corporate world to be mentally tough. I'm not criticizing him for his credentials. Even he would gladly tell you he doesn't need to be a doctor or a shrink to offer some sound advice on how to change your life to include becoming slimmer and more healthy. And he knows from whence he speaks. During his travels coaching the corporate world on how to be mentally tough, he gained 40lbs—got fat. He identified the problem, decided how important it was to him and set out to fix it.
His book is filled with quick, easy to read chapters offering what seems to be sound advice; Stop socializing with fat people, Stop waiting to be rescued, Expect to pay the price. He cites (somewhat loosely) stats and trends that support what he preaches. I liked the book. I could do well to take up its advice. And I liked Siebold. Despite getting death threats after his last book, Die Fat or Get Tough, he really doesn't seem to be the judgmental, callous individual some overweight people label him. And despite that he believes the American Medical Association made its most irresponsible declaration ever by calling obesity a disease, no one can argue that obesity is an epidemic in the U.S.
But I still have a pit in my stomach. Maybe it's because the longer I've been around, the more I've learned that most people are doing the best they can. I know people who want to lose weight and the battle has wounded them miserably, leaving them depressed. If a weight problem is an outward manifestation of depression, PTSD, being Bi-Polar for example, then a bullet-point chalk-talk self-help book may only serve to do more damage. During my interview with Siebold, he agreed those people should seek therapy first and foremost. He's right. I just wish he would have stated that at the beginning of his book because, let me tell you, the first page alone— Comply or Die is not for the faint of heart.
Siebold says he isn't making money from his book; says you can download it from his website, www.fatloser.com for free. See what you think. But for all of my friends out there who wish there was a little less of them to go around, I leave you with a New Year's resolution an old friend of mine announced to me nearly 30 years ago when he was in his 20's. He said his resolution was to lose one pound by the end of the year. He said, "You laugh but if I make sure I am one pound lighter each year than the year prior, I'll be at my ideal weight by the time I'm 35!" Pick your goals carefully, sincerely and you will stand a better chance of adhering to them 100%.